WHY BOYS LIE ABOUT....

The clue to your man’s behaviour could lie in his teenage conditioning, writes Matthew Whyman.

their size

“No one would admit that his penis is small,” laughs John, a15-year-old I know. It’s because boys have to be bigger and better than each other at everything — including the trouser content area.

Though penis size doesn’t really vary much from one boy to the next, sadly, we still buy into the stupid myth that the bigger the penis, the better boyfriend we’ll make.

deal with it Tell your guy that there is more to life than the size of his penis – like the size of his personality.

their kissing history

If boys were to be believed, we’d all be natural born kissers. It’s a fear of seeming inexperienced that prompts us to tell fibs about our talent for puckering up. It’s a shame, because there’s nothing more attractive to you girls than a little honesty. “One guy I know came clean and admitted that he’d never been kissed,” says another 15 year-old. “Six girls offered to change that!”

deal with it Try to ignore his snog stories.What matters is that he puts his heart into kissing you.

losing their virginity

Lying about our kissing experience is a warm-up for when people ask us whether we’ve “done it” yet. “As soon as one boy says he’s lost his virginity, nobody admits they’re a long way from losing theirs,” says Cedric, 16. We rush into sex, only to realise that being a virgin is no big deal.deal with it Never be pressured into sex. If he thinks you’re special, he’ll wait until you’re ready.

how far they’ve gone

"My girlfriend would slay me if she knew this,” blushes George, 18. “But I told my friends we were having sex before we’d even kissed!” George isn’t alone. Again, we tell this massive lie to avoid being singled out as less than perfect lovers. “I was worried if I told them the truth they’d ask me why I hadn’t made a move on her yet,” adds George.

deal with it Make it clear to your man that if he makes up stories about how far you’ve gone together you’ll put the record straight — in public!

being cool

“I told a girl whom I liked that I was a top club DJ,” laughs Nathan, 19. “She seemed to be really impressed. Then at her friend’s party, she invited me to spin the music!” Let’s face it, how many guys do you know who admit to collecting stamps or birdwatching? If our hobby is uncool, it’ll remain secret. Instead, we’ll serve up something sexier to boost our appeal.

deal with it Remind him that being cool starts with being proud to stand out from the crowd. Who cares if his hobby is collecting model cars? It won’t change your feelings – the only thing that will do that is if you find out he’s been lying.